|
CHINA> Focus
![]() |
|
When a 'phoenix man' meets a 'peacock woman'
By Lin Qi (China Daily)
Updated: 2009-08-26 10:12
"I had just graduated from college. How could I meet those standards in just a few years? I think they implied that I was unqualified to be their daughter's boyfriend," he says. Since phoenix men are usually only children, too, there is sometimes the perception that they have obligations to their rural families. Another of Lin's girlfriends turned him down because of this. Civil servant Zhou Yi says it is natural for urban parents to be irritated by their rural in-laws and worry about their daughter having to look after them in their old age. Lin's relationship with a third city girl was spoiled by her spending habits, he says.
Tu Xin is among those city girls who shun phoenix men when looking for a husband. "One of my friends dated a phoenix man. They looked all right at first, but then she found her boyfriend was unhappy to see her with male friends and wanted to control her social life. So they broke up," she says. She believes that a man from the city would not be so immature. "I don't mean to generalize, but there are just too many ideological contradictions between phoenix men and peacock women." Chen Youhong, however, says people should not exaggerate the differences. "It is a good idea for phoenix men and peacock women to reach some agreements when they marry. For instance, how to deal with their earnings, visits by relatives, the housework and caring for both parents, among others," she says. She also points out that both sets of parents should show respect for each other and let their children resolve their differences.
|
|||||
巩留县| 伊金霍洛旗| 长顺县| 龙胜| 烟台市| 富川| 无为县| 资中县| 崇阳县| 石狮市| 宜城市| 通城县| 马公市| 巢湖市| 博白县| 无极县| 杭锦后旗| 古田县| 甘德县| 秀山| 兴文县| 遂川县| 固安县| 交口县| 噶尔县| 仲巴县| 永登县| 万年县| 鄯善县| 清镇市| 连云港市| 永靖县| 常山县| 洱源县| 新巴尔虎右旗| 清徐县| 炎陵县| 青海省| 平顶山市| 闸北区| 开远市|